This Mother’s Day reach out

With all of the diverse and different roles that women play in today’s world, none is more timeless than that of “mother.” It is not only a single word, but a globally understood concept. This one simple word undoubtedly evokes powerful feelings in each and every one of us.  

At her best, a mother is a role model, teacher, mentor, protector and coach.  She is someone who helps us feel secure as we grow and learn about the world around us. She is there to wipe our tears and help us clean up our messes, both big and small. She has many demands on her time and yet still makes sure that we know we are loved and valued. 

It is my hope that this is the mother who you had, and that you have grown to appreciate her for all of her gifts – and even all of her flaws. If this is true, then she has given you a greater gift than you may understand, since she has set the stage for all your future relationships.

For those who did not have this type of mother, think about another woman in your life who may have taken on this role.  Perhaps she is an aunt, a grandmother, a family friend or someone whom you claimed for this role in your life.  Remember all of the things she has done for you and all the ways she helped you feel special.  

In this hectic and fast-paced world we live in, take a moment to remember this person and the joy she has brought into your life. And, if you are fortunate enough to have her in your life now, take a minute to reach out and let her know how important she is.  It will mean more to her than you could begin to imagine.

LORI FOGARTY, LICSW, is a clinical social worker at Jewish Family Service of Rhode Island.