Internet Safety: Parenting in today’s electronic world

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The world of cyber safety can be mysterious and confusing to many parents who struggle to stay abreast of the ever-growing choices their children have online. This article offers a brief look at what parents can look for and do regarding cyber-bullying.

Cyber-bullying is defined as online social cruelty that involves sending or posting harmful or cruel texts or images using the internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. The intent is to hurt, harass, embarrass, humiliate. The National Association of School Psychologists estimates that 160,000 children miss school every day for fear of being picked on; that 1.6 million children are bullied each week; and that 40 – 50 % of students in grades four through eight have been bullied online.

Even children who are not actively involved in cyber-bullying (as either bully or victim) may play a role as supporter, onlooker or defender. It is important for parents to ask their children directly about online bullying and not assume children will bring concerns to parents.

Sexting is sending sexually explicit photos or texts through one’s mobile phone. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy reports one in five teens have either sent or posted electronically nude or semi-nude images of themselves.

Adults and teens have been prosecuted under child pornography laws for sexting. It is not only a crime to originate sexually explicit photos or texts but also to forward something one receives on their phone.

 

 

If your child is bullied they should:

•             tell an adult

•             leave the online area

•             block messages from harassing senders

•             save copies of any text or image they get

•             in some cases, notify police.

Parents should:

•             know who their children’s online “friends” are

•             not let children have a computer in their bedroom; instead put one in a common area

•             set limits on concerning behavior

•             teach children to guard their contact info and not share passwords

•             encourage children to talk about their concerns and to express their feelings validate the child’s feelings

•             recognize behavior that may indicate their child is concerned about going to school

If you have concerns that your child is engaged in questionable behavior with computers or mobile phones and need resources or to talk, please contact Jewish Family Service 401-331-1244, ext. 317.

Andrea Epstein, LICSW (andrea@jfsri.org.) is a Kesher social worker for Jewish Family Service of R.I.